It’s also bad for you as a top.You want your partner to ejaculate with your hardness inside him because once he attaches the pleasure of an orgasm to bottoming he will want you again and again! You’ll have to pull out and that means he has to ejaculate after you cut his pleasure in half. Generally speaking, nothing will be more disappointing to the bottom partner than a top who comes first. Some bottoms want to be fucked even after they release their load. If he’s going to cum while you’re fucking him slow and deep, continue fucking him slow and deep. The same applies while you’re topping him. Now is not the time to try a different position or change the depth or speed of your thrusts.Įver notice that during masturbation you don’t change your stroking pattern as you near the point of no return? You might grip it with more pressure and increase the speed but you don’t fundamentally change the stroke, say from tight and fast to loose and slow. Whatever you’re doing the instant you sense that he’s going to come is what you should be doing until he completely ejaculates. Changing The Thrusting Pattern When He’s Close To Coming.
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First, you’re missing a great opportunity to build up anticipation. Not warning your partner before you climax.Make it intimate by wrapping your arms around him like this. Yes, be on top of him, but use your knees, arms and feet to make sure you’re not dropping the entirety of your weight on him.
Your partner will find nothing erotic about his inability to breathe.
On Friday, we showed you how to bottom like a pornstar and the week before that, we showed you how to top like a stud. This series combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest gay male sex research. This column is part of a sex-ed series from Woody Miller, sex advice columnist, and author of the best-selling book, How to Bottom Like a Pornstar.